Be Still and Know

“Now then, stand still and see this great thing the Lord is about to do before your eyes!”

1 Samuel 12:16 (NIV)

For those of you that don’t know me that well….

“Standing still” is not something that I enjoy doing.  In fact, I despise it.  That’s why I majored in Exercise Science in college, that’s why I have played multiple sports in and out of season since age 4, and that’s why I will never work in a tiny cramped office cubicle (I wouldn’t last a week).

To put it simply…let me confess.

Hi, My name is Sam, and I’ve struggled with a Martha Complex for 23 years. (whew, glad that’s off my chest)

The story of Martha and Mary in Luke 10:38-42 is one that constantly challenges me because it forces me to ask the questions: What is the most important thing in my life? What are my intentions behind what I do?  Does my value come from what I accomplish or from who I am?

So, now I am in South Africa and I want to be honest… there are days when I feel absolutely useless.  Language barriers, unfamiliar environments, and tons of free time before the coaching season begins in February has made this period of “resting and preparing” really difficult for me.  My mindset has always been “put me in coach!”  I want get out there and I want to start getting things done, but sometimes that mindset can cause more harm than good.  I tend to be impulsive and impatient, and it’s easy to “get ahead” of myself without waiting on the Lord for direction and wisdom.

But, God is pretty awesome at comforting us when we need comforting.  He’s also great at speaking Truth into confusing and difficult situations, and He reminded me of something important through this verse in 1 Samuel.  This futsal ministry in South Africa belongs to God.  My gifts and talents and abilities are gifts from God.  He’s in charge, He’s the director, and He’s the organizer.  He doesn’t ask me to do a bunch of amazing and marvelous things for Him.  He calls me to stand still.  He calls me to listen, to enjoy, to watch in wonder, and to just “be.”

He’s taken me outside of my comfort zone.  He has brought me to a place where I have been asked to sit back, relax, and watch Him work, and THAT goes against every natural fiber in my being.

But, I am learning that my identity and my value should not be rooted in the things that I do, because I would never be able to do anything good if it wasn’t for God.  Jesus uses the example of cutting a branch off of a tree and seeing how that branch ends up withering from lack of nutrients instead of producing fruit.  As hard as it is to admit sometimes, I can do nothing apart from Him.

My identity needs to come from the fact that I am fully and completely loved, whether I am an invalid who is completely dependent on others or whether I am a successful athlete who is fully capable. God’s love for me and His calling on my life are not dependent on my abilities to “do stuff.”  He promises to be the equipper and the provider, all He asks me to do is to show up and trust Him.

Mary sat at Jesus’s feet.  She didn’t allow a big dinner party to distract her or frustrate her from what was most important.  From my personal perspective, Martha was focused on people pleasing while Mary was focused on “simply receiving.”  Both loved Jesus and both were loved by Jesus, but one sister embraced Him while the other tried to impress Him.  Jesus says that Mary did the better thing.

This journey is going to stretch me in more ways that I ever could have imagined, but I know that God promises to finish the good work which He’s started in me.  I get to see my Heavenly Father do some incredible things in South Africa.  I get to witness His sovereignty and His power and His love for His people…

and I get to say, “wow, thats my Dad… look at Him go”

and because of grace, I get to feel Him smile upon me because He calls me His Beloved, and there’s nothing that I can do to separate myself from that beautiful truth.

Part of A Team

Cloetesville, South Africa

It’s an area full of colored, afrikaans speaking South Africans.  It’s an area that is saturated with alcohol abuse, poverty, school dropouts, and pregnant teenagers.  The average person doesn’t have much of a job or an education, let alone a loving and supportive family.

But you know what, the kids LOVE futsal.

Futsal girls

Walk into an open field with a ball and some cones… and kids will show up out of nowhere.  It’s a beautiful sight.

Within this country, well-known for its history with segregation and racism, you’ll find training4changeS.  A nonprofit organization made up of: some radical americans desiring to impact the lives of kids through sport, a white south african girl with a heart for discipleship, a black xhosa speaking man who can preach and lead the youth with zeal, a colored afrikaans speaking man who just so happens to be the former head coach of the Futsal National team in South Africa, and a colored afrikaans girl who has a passion for changing the world around her in a big way.

We are all very different.  We come from different cultures and we speak different languages.  We are different ages, we are different genders, and we have different opinions and perspectives.

But… we all have the same passion and we all have the same heart.  Our heart is to break the stereotypes within South Africa and to impact the lives of young boys and girls through sport (futsal).  Our overall goals are to love, to teach, to mentor, and to lead.

It’s a beautiful example of the “body of Christ” aka the church in action.  Many parts combining with different strengths and weaknesses to accomplish something amazing!  1 Corinthians 12:18, 21, and 22 say this: “But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where He wants it…The eye can never say to the hand, ‘I don’t need you,’ and the head can’t say to the feet, ‘I don’t need you’…In fact, some parts of the body that seem the weakest and least important are actually the most necessary.”

If we were all armpits or feet…we wouldn’t get very far (some parts of South Africa smell bad enough as it is so we really wouldn’t want that).  Luckily for us, we are a variety of “parts” that are working in unison, striving to create a movement.  Our hope is that this movement will shatter the existing expectations of what “life” is supposed to look like for these young South African kids.

The weather in Stellenbosch is hot, the apartment is finally decorated, the coaching meetings have begun, there are mountains outside my window (take THAT Miami), my Afrikaans is improving (hallelujah), and my best friend enjoys making fun of my strange American habits (like precutting my meat so I can put my knife down and how I put “too much” ice in my drinks).  I love it all.

School starts for the kids next Wednesday, and that’s when the real fun will begin, so pray for loving and honest relationships to be developed between the coaches and the players.  Pray for opportunities, growth, patience, grace, and for language barriers to be conquered.  Pray for no injuries and no expectations!  Finally, pray for the training4changeS team, that we will be united on this journey.

The Team.

Ecclesiastes 12:4 says: A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.

The Road Less Traveled

Unfortunately in Miami, we only get two seasons: Summer and Hell on Earth (which usually happens around July or August).  But for me, as one season of my life ends, a new one begins…

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What do you get when you put an elderly Korean, a golden hearted Guatemalan, a Jehovah Witness, a Colombian, a Pentecostal Haitian, a dancing Puerto Rican, and a white girl with no waitressing experience in an Italian restaurant?   You get Pizzafiore Miami Shores, and you get an incredibly hilarious and slightly dysfunctional group of people that come from very different walks of life.  These people started out as strangers, but quickly became a part of my family.

I never thought that my life could be impacted by others so quickly.  I walked into this job with anxiety, doubt, and fear, but I left it with patience, love, and an open mind. (Not to mention the ability to make a killer Cuban coffee.)

I was put in this place for a purpose, and I know that God’s hands were all over it. I was taught how to serve, how to listen, how to stand firm, and how to let go.  When my “prideful self” thought that I would be the one making a difference around this joint, I was the one being changed, being humbled, and being challenged.

I am incredibly grateful for the time spent at the restaurant, but every season eventually comes to an end.  This step of faith is leading me into a time where preparation, focus, and perseverance are going to be crucial.  Spending time with my friends and family is going to be a priority, and fundraising will be my main goal.  Though the season may seem less hectic, it won’t be easy.

I have trouble “resting” because I have always been a “doer.” I’ve realized that it’s time for me to be still.  It’s time to finally let go of the parking brake and the steering wheel and enjoy sitting in the passenger seat of this wild ride called life while my God, who I like to call my “Sovereign Chauffeur” takes the wheel and drives. There will be twists, turns, speed limits, detours, accidents, and oh so many adventures….

But my God knows where He’s going because He paved the road, so I will roll the windows down with my seatbelt buckled and the music blasting… and I will make the most of every second of it.

Ready, Set, Wait?

Waiting.

It’s a tough thing to do.  Like for example, waiting in line at the grocery store, waiting for the work day to end, or even waiting for your favorite TV show to start it’s next season.

But what about waiting to leave the country to begin an adventure of a lifetime?  Yeah. That’s really hard.

About a year ago, the Lord used close friends, scripture, and prayer to reveal to me a new and radical mission for my life.  It was a mission that I never would have dreamed up on my own.  To be honest, I was scared to death.  God was calling me to become a missionary.

I have aways had a passion for soccer, and I loved being able to play it as a kid and coach it as an adult.  In college, majoring in Sports and Fitness, I was given the opportunity to partner with the FCA (Fellowship of Christian Athletes) on a summer missions trip called IMPACT.  The first time that I attended the trip I was a student, but I knew God was calling me back so I returned the following summer as a co-leader.  This was the first time the thought had crossed my mind that maybe the Lord was calling me to become a full-time missionary.  We learned about using sport to share the gospel and how it can be used to impact the lives of people around the globe.  Daniel Thomae, a current missionary in South Africa and partner with IMPACT, approached me about joining his nonprofit “training4changeS,” and he invited me to come alongside him and his wife Kendra as a coach for the young girls.  Daniel’s mission has been to open a futsal academy for the local primary school kids in the Western Cape of South Africa.  He has wanted to raise up young leaders and coaches to impact the nation, which he hopes will help to prevent the cycles of poverty, fatherlessness, and violence from reoccurring amongst the people.

My heart felt right at home.

I have this dream to help young girls all over the globe realize their worth and value.  I want them to know that they are loved beyond measure by a Heavenly Father who will never let them down or disown them.  I want them to develop life skills and values that will change their lives and their families lives forever.  I want to share the grace and love of Jesus Christ by teaching them about the Bible and using the sport of futsal to do it. (By the way, futsal is a 5-a-side version of soccer that is played on a hard court without walls, using a smaller ball than regular soccer and a standard match consists of two 20-minute halves.)

The crazy part?  The Lord has blessed me by giving me an opportunity to do it.

The journey begins now, by spreading the word of this mission, by raising support, by prayer, and by letting the Lord lead the way.

The wait is almost over, but there’s still a lot of work to do. Join me on this adventure.

Donate to the cause at: http://ssmfi.org/missionary/samantha-stokesberry/

Learn more about training4changeS and their mission at: http://www.training4changes.org/

Psalm 27:14 “Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!”

Habakkuk 1:5 “Look at the nations and watch – and be utterly amazed.  For I am going to do something in your days that you would not believe, even if you were told.”

 

– Sam