My Mal Beste Vriendin (My Crazy Best Friend)

“Friendship isn’t about whom you’ve known the longest, its about who came by your side and never left”

Two Peas in a Pod

I have a few confessions to make. I hate talking on the phone, I am terrible at remembering time zone differences, and I have a tendency to forget Skype dates.  But despite these weaknesses, I have managed to become best friends with a girl who lives 8,034 miles away.  I met her only a few years ago, but it feels like we’ve been friends forever. Our friendship began over a cup of coffee and some shepherds pie (herders pastei) in the country of South Africa. We bonded over our favorite sport and how silly our accents sounded to each other, and the rest is history.

And if being best friends with this incredibly athletic, beautiful, and driven girl wasn’t enough, I have officially received word that when I move to South Africa in January to become a missionary… I will get to move in with her!

It really is true that God knows exactly what we need when we need it, and His plans are greater than any plans we ever could come up with on our own.  To be able to coach soccer, share the Gospel, travel across the world, and love on kids is a dream come true.  And just when I thought that God was done spoiling me, He decides to throw my best friend in the mix as my roommate! It’s icing on the cake.

With Rencia… When I am weak, she is strong.  When I have doubts, she has faith.  When my ego gets too big, she reminds me to break it down. When my jokes aren’t funny, she tells me.

Our friendship has survived miles and miles of distance, a 7 hour time difference, and let’s not forget the time when I went to “Patmos” for 4 months and couldn’t use my phone.

Our God really knows how to give good gifts to His children.  Moving in with this amazing woman of God will not only be a blessing emotionally and spiritually… it will also be a blessing financially.  Having someone to do missionary life with every day will help cut the cost of my monthly support for the both of us.  Did I mention how God knows exactly what we need when we need it?

From the moment we became best friends, we made a promise that our friendship would never just be for ourselves.  This friendship is so much bigger than the both of us.  It is meant for so much more.  Our prayer is that the Lord takes this relationship and uses it for His glory, to impact the lives of young girls everywhere.

“Rencia, this friendship we have is such a gift and I am so thankful that you’ve come alongside me to preserve it and fight for it and strengthen it.  I can’t wait to serve with you, live with you, and tackle you to the ground with a huge bear hug.  Ek is lief vir jou”

Kayamandi Township, ZA

Author: Sam Stokesberry

“I have come to know a God Who has a soft spot for rebels, Who recruits people like the adulterer David, the whiner Jeremiah, the traitor Peter, and the human-rights abuser Saul of Tarsus. I have come to know a God Whose Son made prodigals the heroes of His stories and the trophies of His ministry.” ― Philip Yancey

2 thoughts on “My Mal Beste Vriendin (My Crazy Best Friend)”

  1. My Dear Samantha,
    How fortunate you are to have found such a friend in Rencia and she to have found you. It is so rare and you both are so blest.
    One of my favorite quotations about friendship seems to tell your story:
    “A friend is one to whom you can pour out the contents of your heart, chaff and grain alike;
    Knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with
    a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”
    Could Aristotle be right? “What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.”


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